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Connection and Enlightenment

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Connection and EnlightenmentConnection and enlightenment with Michelle A. Hardwick

Although not apparent to us at the time, we do have a spiritual connection and are very enlightened at an early age. As we grow into our teens and twenties, life experiences challenge us, and we consciously (or unconsciously) shut down or lose this connection. As we grow even older, we begin to feel that something is missing in our lives. We might ask ourselves:

“Is this what my life is all about?”
“Is this all there is to my life?”

Inner Paddler

We know and feel that there must be something more.
It’s as if an ‘inner paddler’ awakens within us – paddling us forward: searching – looking – reading – needing to discover more, to seek answers to those important questions about our life, and what we truly want to do with it.

Inner Journey

That’s when our journey of self-discovery commences: we start processing, releasing and making peace with our past.  As we break free, we move beyond the confines of our mind, intellect and physical body. Our ego, once fueled by insecurities, becomes quieter and we develop true confidence, authenticity and self-knowledge. We start to let go of past judgments, become more accepting and go further, deeper into our innermost self. We continue on and our perspective changes. We see life differently, we feel more compassion, kindness, forgiveness towards others. We experience a sense of oneness and reconnect to the spiritual world.

Powerful Quote

I searched for a quote that would encompass my thoughts for this post and I found this one from New Zealand. I feel it describes many aspects of life beautifully – not just the state of oneness:

Connection and enlightenment with Michelle A. Hardwick“Kaua e rangiruatia te hā o te hoe;
e kore tō tātou waka e ū ki uta”
‘Do not lift the paddle out of unison
or our canoe will never reach the shore’

Most of us, whether we are conscious of it or not, are paddling – I’d like to think we’re paddling towards a shore of oneness. I know some are already there. Others are only just starting out. We’re all at different stages of our inner journey. But it’s when we ignore our ‘inner paddler’, that we remain disconnected and never reach the shore.

While travelling the world for many years, I have had the privilege to meet amazing people – all of whom are paddling. I have also facilitated countless workshops and  one-on-one consultations, designed to help wonderful awakening individuals become one: to reconnect, grow and evolve and reach the shore.

Completion of a Journey

On 22nd & 23rd October 2016, the group that began their inner journey in 2014, will complete their 7th and final weekend Wonder of the Soul and reach their shore. It’s been an absolute joy and honour for me to journey with these incredibly dedicated group of souls. Their final life-changing weekend will include many experiences and opportunities to:

Connection and enlightenment with Michelle A. Hardwick

  • Begin to feel a direct connection
  • Feel enlightened
  • Feel aligned and supported by the earth
  • Become aware of divine order in all things
  • Radiate love and peace to all
  • Experience more bliss
  • See everyone as equal, without judgment
  • Live their humanity and divinity simultaneously
  • To share their gifts; enjoy life to the full and live their life filled with passion.

I can’t wait! So many gifts will surface as the weekend unfolds. If you’d like to know more:
please download and print out a pdf of this event here
Alternatively read more about the Wonder of the Soul Weekend Seven online. Take a peek at some of the very kind testimonials received from participants from our previous weekends.

New journey Begins

As one journey ends a new one begins! Come, join and paddle with us at the first weekend Wonder of the Soul experience. This weekend will be the start of a series of seven workshops, held in the beautiful grounds of the Liss Ard Estate in the Lake Lodge in West Cork, Ireland. It will take place on 24th & 25th September and we will explore more about self-esteem and self-worth. Read more about all of the seven Wonders of the Soul Weekends here or just book your place now! There are a few places remaining – there’s one with your name on it…

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Do contact me if you have any questions. If you’d prefer to see me privately, then contact me to book your personal consultation. Or call me, Michelle (in Ireland) on 0871492338 or (in the UK) on 07857369619 to discuss your needs. There are a number of discounted packages available too.

Consultations are also available in Cork City at the Natural Clinic. Book a consultation with Michelle online at the Natural clinic, click here or call The Natural Clinic Reception (+353) 21 4311977.

Healing Codependency

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Codependency – What is it?

Codependency

Codependency is a term used for people who have a tendency to be involved in dysfunctional relationships. They set up negative patterns where the needs and behaviours of their loved ones are more important than their own. As you might expect, codependent patterns increase levels of stress, frustration, irritation, anger and anxiety.

Codependency – Difficulty in Early Childhood

According to Weinhold & Weinhold “codependency is a failure to complete one or more of the important developmental tasks of early childhood. Individuals who do not complete a variety of stages and processes become developmentally delayed at a personal level. This prevents them from creating not only healthy couple, family relationships but also healthy organisations, cultures and nation-states.

Sympthoms of Codependency

Common symptoms of codependency are:

  • Feeling trapped in abusive, controlling relationships
  • Having low self-esteem
  • CodependencyNeeding approval /support from others in order to feel good about yourself
  • Feeling powerless to change destructive relationships
  • Needing some other outside stimulation to distract from your feelings e.g. alcohol, food, work, sex etc.
  • Feeling like a martyr, helpless, using guilt to manipulate
  • Being a people pleaser
  • Having poor or weak boundaries
  • Inability to experience true intimacy and love
  • Lack of trust, perfectionism, operating in the extremes
  • Caretaking, obsession
  • Depression, compulsive lying, compulsive talking
  • Controlling others through manipulation, threatening, coerciveness and/or constant advice giving…”

People who are codependent often also fear abandonment and rejection. But what they don’t realise is that they actually abandon and reject themselves.

Healing Codependency

It IS possible to heal codependency. We first need to heal our relationship with ourselves. When I began healing my own codependent tendencies, I found that a lot of my difficulties stemmed from childhood. I began healing there.

Now whenever my clients want to become free from codependent patterns, I use a similar process. We typically release challenges from their past – either through Regression or the Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT), we also change emotions and behaviours by using Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP). If my clients are really committed to change their lives, at the end of our time together I usually suggest they go on to heal their primitive reflexes, as I did. All of this is deep, inner work, however using this combination of tools will help make lasting change and is a very empowering process.

Being in-dependent is all about strengthening and healing you. It is not about changing anyone else.

Freedom of Codependency

Breaking free from CodependencyWhen clients are free from codependent behaviours they begin to take responsibility for their actions, feelings, behaviours and life. They meet their own needs. They are able to say no and set appropriate boundaries. They have self-esteem, self-acceptance, self-belief and self-love. They feel IN – dependence instead of CO-dependence.

One client recently wrote to me saying:
“I had a feeling this way of change was for me. I need to let you know that since our session yesterday something in me has shifted. I don’t know what – but I feel alive! I have this most beautiful feeling of peace and for that I thank you most sincerely”.

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Contact

To free yourself from your codependent tendencies contact Michelle A. Hardwick for a consultation either in person in the UK: Phone – 07857369619 or in Ireland: Phone – 0871492338. Alternatively contact Michelle here to book your consultation via Skype.

Resources

Breaking Free of the Codependent Trap Weinhold & Weinhold